My Journey of Mentorship
By Romita Sur
We are here for you
Come ask us whatever questions you need
We are here to support you
Said the super enthusiastic white dude in my first year class introduction
Little did I know that “support” isn’t for all students
Very rarely do spaces meant for mentorship address sexual violence or race or the intersections between them
If something happens in class or placement, reach out to us
We will support your statement
Our mentors helped us, we want to pay that forward
There is racial profiling in the social work job market
Are you sure?
Well actually, when they said this, did they mean….
Very rarely do spaces meant for mentorship address how micro aggressions are perpetuated
“Create a space for yourself” says the social worker from the Immigrant Women’s Centre
Her talk is toward the very end of the conference with dwindling audience numbers
“Create a space for yourself”
Sometimes we have to be the first: start things, listen
The emotional labour is tolling but this must be done
“Why do we need a group for students of colour”
“You people are never happy with anything”
Words spoken by the president of the association
Still the group is created
With no poc professors, we are assigned a Jewish professor
She listens, suggests, guides
Very rarely do spaces meant for mentorship get individuals who will listen and guide rather than dictate and judge
Fast forward two years and law school happens
I go to my first speed meet
I am one of the two racialized students in the space and there are no poc professionals
I bring this up with the President of the group
“Well…it’s not really that important, it would be the same, plus, we didn’t find any”
I ask myself how do you find mentors when there are no mentors who look like you…
A year passes and the few women of colour in the school create a space for themselves
I am reminded of the social worker who first told me “Create a space for yourself”
So we go about creating our own mentorship program
A member brings up “how do we find mentors who are also feminists and have an intersectional lens”
I ask myself what does mentorship mean? How does feminism and intersectionality get addressed in this?
I get an opportunity to shadow an MP in parliament
I am wary as politics is still a white-male dominated space
I get paired with an MP from the NDP who works in national security and Indigenous issues
Surprised when she hears with what I am involved in
She says “we need a dose of that in politics”
On our walks to buildings in between meetings, she brings up anti-oppression training, race and gender sensitivity, and why she wants to work on these issues
She mentions that she does this program because politics needs more women and if she can mentor others, she must try her best
I ask myself how do you find mentors who want to mentor and understand this gap
I get an email from the Dean
He tells me about a woman who works on diversity issues and wants to talk to me
I wonder what this means
She calls and after a few moments she immediately starts to talk about mentorship
I am genuinely shocked
We share stories of being poc in a white dominated faculty
She gives me relevant advice in having a balance in applying for jobs, in terms of its requirements and your values
I get a glimpse of what true intersectional feminist mentorship looks like
I ask myself why there are so few of these amazing women
I am still searching for the answer
What is mentorship in intersectional feminism?
How do you be a mentor to future students?
What kind of mentor would I have wanted?
I would like to dedicate this poem to students still searching for mentors to connect with and to a project close to my heart. Mentorship needs to include diverse voices as there are multitudes of people within the legal profession.